The Intimacy Equation Quiz
We all experience intimacy differently. For some, it’s deep emotional safety. For others, it’s passion, play, or spiritual connection. Your Intimacy Equation is your unique mix of emotion, desire, and energy that makes love feel alive. This 3-minute quiz will reveal what truly fuels your connection — and what may be blocking it.
You Can't Talk Your Way Into Better Sex, You Have to Feel Your Way Into It
That’s why my Couples Retreats are so effective and have a 90% success rate.
You don’t just talk—you experience.
You’ll learn how to:
- Reconnect through touch, presence, and playful intimacy
- Move past shame, shutdown, and performance pressure
- Discover the erotic language that actually turns you both on
- Create a felt sense of safety, pleasure, and desire
AS SEEN IN & TRUSTED BY COUPLES AROUND THE WORLD
For over 15 years, nationally recognized sex and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet has helped hundreds of couples around the world heal emotional disconnection, reignite desire, and rediscover intimacy through immersive, trauma-informed retreats.
Is This You?
You’ve achieved so much in life—but when it comes to love, connection, and intimacy, something still feels missing. If you’re longing for more… you’re not alone.
You might resonate if:
- You feel more like roommates than lovers
- You’re emotionally disconnected, even if you’re still functioning as a couple
- Physical intimacy feels awkward, absent, or like something’s just… off
- You’ve been through therapy but still feel stuck or unseen
- You miss the passion and playfulness you once had—or never truly explored
- One or both of you struggles with desire, attraction, or vulnerability
- You crave a safe space to heal old wounds or reignite your erotic spark
- You’re ready to feel deeply alive, sexually expressed, and truly connected again
Whether you’re coming as a couple or as a woman on your own, these retreats create sacred space for real transformation.
Which Experience Is Right for You?
A luxury retreat is just the beginning. Whether you’re looking for private reconnection or a tropical group immersion, you’ll find the space to rekindle intimacy and rediscover your partner.
Private Couples Retreat
Location: Asheville, NC (Florida in winter)
Who it’s for: Couples craving deep 1-on-1 guidance in a safe, private container
Packages start at $2800 per person
Group Couples Vacation Retreat
Location: International
Who it’s for: Couples in a stable relationship ready to turn up the heat—together.
Packages start at $5199 per person
Women’s-Only Retreat
Location: International
Who it’s for: Women ready to reclaim their sensual power and embodied joy
Packages start at $3900 per person
Meet Xanet
This work is personal. Because I’ve lived it.
For 26 years, I was in a sexless marriage. From the outside, everything looked fine. But inside, I felt disconnected, unfulfilled, and unsure how to bring up the one thing we didn’t know how to talk about—our intimacy.
It took years of healing, learning, and deep personal transformation to reclaim my body, my voice, and my desire. And now, I guide others on that journey—not from a place of theory, but lived experience.
As a nationally recognized sex and intimacy coach, former lawyer, and best-selling author of Living an Orgasmic Life, I’ve helped hundreds of couples and women create meaningful, lasting change in their relationships and their lives.
This isn’t just my work. It’s my calling.
Media Appearances
ARTICLES
- Cosmopolitan: 13 Hot AF Kissing Games – September 28, 2018
- How to Have the Most Hella Romantic Sex of Your Life – November 23, 2018
- The Orgasm Deficit – July 8, 2018
- Why Is Sex Better in Hotel Rooms? – November 5, 2018
- 5 Ways to Overcome a Sexual Dry Spell in Your Marriage- – April 19, 2018
- How to Sext Like a Grown Man – – September 6, 2018
- Things All Couples Should Vs. Shouldn’t Do In The Bathroom Together – August 9, 2018
- 5 Subtle Signs Your Partner Is Falling Out Of Love Vs. 5 Signs They Just Need Space – September 6, 2018
- 7 Facts No One Tells You About Physical Intimacy As You Get Older – December 13, 2018
- 9 Things All Couples Should Vs. Shouldn’t Do In The Bathroom Together
- If You And Your Partner Do These 11 Small Things, You’re Meant To Grow Old TogetherAugust 28, 2018
- More Than Half Of Women Orgasm Through Oral Sex — But Most Aren’t Receiving It September 14, 2018
- Why Is Sexual Health A Woman’s Responsibility? Gender Bias Affects STI & Pregnancy Prevention, Too September 11, 2018
- ‘Tis the Season For Stress. Here’s How to Prioritize Pleasure December 21, 2019
- Meet the Women Who Swapped Their Vibrators for Crystal Wands December 12, 2018
- The Surprising Things That Happen When You Stop Going for the Orgasm January 18, 2019
- Should You See A Sexological Bodyworker? April 10, 2018
- The Well And Good: Bring Back The Heat To Your Sexless Relationship Using An Intimacy Pro’s Top 4 Tips
- Anza Goodbar: The Filthiest Five-letter Word: How the Origins of Conscious and Subconscious Shame have Negatively Colored Our Feelings about Sex August 27, 2018
- Emily Reviews: Stocking Stuffers For Adults 2018November 26, 2018
- Fupping: 47 Best Self Help Books That Every Woman Should Read – Self Improvement Books September 9, 2018
- Greatist: How Long Do Most Men Need to Reset Between Orgasms? November 24, 2018
- Headgum: Living an Orgasmic Life ft. sex coach Xanet Pailet January 19, 2019
- Health: 9 Things You Can Do to Make It Easier to Have an Orgasm During Sex September 12, 2018
- Hip Latina: Is Dating Without Using Apps Still Possible? August 20, 2018
- Insider: 7 signs you could be coming on too strong May 7, 2019
- Lovehoney: Sex Expert Interview: Xanet Pailet November 5, 2018
- Onzie: FIVE HEALTH & WELLNESS BOOKS FOR THE HOLIDAYS November 16, 2018
- Refinery29: These Sex Trends Will Be Big In 2019 December 4, 2018
- Scoop Whoop: Science Has The Answer Why Sex Is Better In Hotel Rooms And It Is ‘Bang On’ November 13, 2018
- Sex With Emily: SEXY AT ANY AGE BY XANET PAILET August 13, 2018
- Slutty Girl Problems: Living an Orgasmic Life: Heal Yourself and Awaken Your Pleasure November 26, 2018
- The Active Times: The One Sign You Should Get a Divorce December 28, 2018
- Sex With Emily: THE LOST ART OF KISSING BY XANET PAILET August 27, 2018
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